I’m thinking about my friend Kim. Actually, I’m thinking about hair and dresses and the word “tomboy,” but Kim is as good a starting point as any. Kim and I were friends in elementary school, in that way where I consider her an integral part of my childhood but I wouldn’t be able to tell you anything about her life outside of school and the soccer team we were both a part of. ​

A few things to know about me: I have followed a lesbian meme account on Instagram called “lonely_lesbian_gang” for close to a year. I have openly flirted with several girls in my past. I participated in an almost whirlwind lesbian romance that resulted in one party leaving the country and the other feeling lost; I’ll let you choose which one you want to believe I am. 

But most importantly, I have also dated a man for close to five years.
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College dating is on a whole other level in comparison to dating in highschool, particularly when you’re queer. In highschool, as with many non-heterosexual identifying teens, my sexuality and understanding my sexual preferences eluded me to a large extent. In high school, I had exclusively dated guys, but dating as a whole didn’t really appeal to me in the way it would most teens. This was mostly due to the fact that I just wasn’t really interested in men, but I also wasn’t aware that there was any other option than the standard hetronormative one.